MoHow Posted by Dr. MO Do you ever have days where it seems that nothing is going your way? Have you found it difficult, and sometimes impossible, to keep going in those circumstances? I used to have these kinds of experience… today they are very rare for me.
One reason that I feel better and do better is that I developed a four step method to keep going no matter what…. and today I want share it with you.
1. The first thing I do when I begin to feel upset (for me it’s noticing that my jaw is clenched and that my shoulders are tense), is pause, and take a few slow, deep breaths.
2. Then, I ask myself “What are you thinking?”, listen for my answer, and then notice whether I’ve used exaggeration words (eg worst) or absolute words (eg never).
3. Next, I replace these words with proportional (eg quite difficult vs worst) and accurate (eg sometimes vs never) ones, and notice what I feel when I listen to my new thoughts.
4. And as a next step I take action to keep my momentum going.
If the four steps don’t work the first time round, and sometimes they don’t, I cycle through the steps again with more breathing, thought tracking, and word replacement until my feelings lead to positive action.
Practice this routine and use it the next time you feel upset and think of giving up. I think you will notice that as you develop the skill of using your thinking to maintain momentum in your life, that you will much better and achieve more.
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