MoHow Posted By Dr. MO Most people are in a hurry. Are you?
We experience this phenomenon all day long, every day. We see it on the highways, at the office, in line at the supermarket, on the sidewalks. This kind of hurrying is unhealthy, destructive, and a dangerous habit.
In this post I’m going to describe 3 ways to slow down, become happier, and actually achieve more. It’s not about doing nothing…it’s about not getting worked up, and enjoying a range of activities that the ‘hurrier’ in us has told us is “doing nothing” or “not caring”. We have believed these things for too long! Tomorrow I will add three more ideas….
Here’s how to do it, improve your life, reduce your stress and as an additional benefit, become more productive.
Start with small experiences
Not hurrying is a habit change and can actually be overwhelming if you attempt to change too much too fast. Make small changes at first. Focus on 5-10 minutes at a time, and start your practice sessions in a safe place — at home, not at work or in a busy public place. You may also not be ready to slow down everywhere. Find a time and place where there are not many distractions, not much noise, not a lot of people to bother you.
Begin by slowing down your input from too many sources ….TV, computer, cell phones, regular phones, and the like. Doing less is hard when our communications gadgets are calling at us to do something.
Now, close your eyes, and do nothing. If the phone rings don’t automatically run to answer it. After 5-10 minutes go do something. Do this every day, or as much as possible, because it is not possible to change a habit without practice.
The next area to focus on is your breathing. Start first by breathing slowly in, and then slowly out. Now closely monitor your breath as it enters your body, through your nose, and goes down into your lungs, and fills your lungs. Now feel it as it goes out of your body, through your mouth, and feel the satisfying emptying of your lungs.
Do this for 5-10 minutes, daily, When you start thinking about other things, such as how what you need to do, go back to focusing on your breath! Don’t beat yourself up about it, smile, and bring your focus back to your breath each time.
An important part of slowing down is being able to completely relax. Relaxing starts by finding a comfortable place, a soft chair, a beautiful lawn. Once you’ve found this spot, sit there, and settle in. Think of how a cat lies down, and makes itself comfortable. Cats are very, very good at relaxing. aspire to reach their level of letting go,let them be your role models.
Next, do the breathing technique. If you are not completely relaxed, do a self massage. Yes, massage is much better when administered by other hands, but self massage is great too. Start with your shoulders and neck. Work your way up to your head and even your face. Also do your back, and legs and arms.
Yet another great way of relaxing is an exercise where you tense each muscle in your body, one body part at a time, and then let the tensed muscle relax. Start with your feet, then your legs, and work your way up to your eyebrows and the top of your head.
After you practice and begin to master these techniques you will have new tools that you can use to intervene when your old habit of hurrying shows up. Gradually as you notice yourself beginning to hurry, beginning to feel anxious, upset, or overwhelmed, you will be able to have an new option…the option of slowing down and living more at the speed of life, and feeling much better.
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