MoHow Posted By Joel Simms Well being has different meanings to different people. When I use it it does not refer to the absence of negative emotions, but is the ability to understand the value of our emotions and use them to move our lives forward and upward in positive directions. In this post I am using the following definition, ‘Emotional well being is a positive sense which enables an individual to be able to function in society and meet the demands of everyday life; people in good mental shape have the ability to recover effectively from illness, change or misfortune.’
I will now outline 12 facets of emotional fitness and well being described in Daniel Goleman‘s book Emotional Intelligence and offer brief descriptions. Each facet, or aspect, can be developed through practice and skill building.
1. Awareness. Recognising individual emotions as they occur, understanding why they occur, and understanding the effects (both good and bad) they have on you.
2. Control. Resisting impulses and urges (delaying gratification), remaining calm even as chaos ensues, and always thinking clearly when those around you can’t.
3. Assessment. Knowing strengths and weaknesses, learning from mistakes, and constantly striving to build on what you have in an attempt to make yourself better.
4. Vision. Creating a sense of direction in your life, having the foresight to anticipate problems/needs before they arise, and paying attention to the details.
5. Creativity. Thinking outside the box, developing a tolerance for ambiguity, and maintaining an openness to change.
6. Innovation. Seeking out unconventional solutions to problems, keeping an open mind to novelty in the world, and applying creativity in practical ways.
7. Ambition. Setting tough but attainable goals, constantly raising the bar in pursuit of excellence, and feeding the need for achievement whenever you can.
8. Initiative. Taking the first step when opportunity arises, never sitting back because it’s not in your “job description”, and bending the rules (occasionally) when it comes to making progress.
9. Conscientiousness. Accepting responsibility for personal performance, adopting a focused approach in your work, and understanding that nobody else is to blame for your shortcomings.
10. Adaptability. Admitting when you’ve failed, remaining flexible in the face of obstacles, and never being too stubborn to change.
11. Independence. Living with an unshakable sense of who you are, making your own decisions in the face of peer pressure, and acting despite tremendous risk and doubt.
12. Optimism. Understanding we all make mistakes, choosing to persist no matter how many times you’ve failed, and always remaining hopeful that success is just around the corner.
A great way to begin the skill building process is to start at the top of the list and work your way down over the next year. Or simply choose whichever you feel will benefit you most right now and take it from there.
For example, to create a greater sense of awareness you could start practicing mindfulness. For vision, you could write a document entitled ” What I would like to hear people say about my life if I could anonymously attend a testimonial dinner, at age 90, about my life, and listen in.”
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