MoHow Posted By Dr. MO From the first moments that we can understand communication we are trained to want to be rich; we are conditioned to want the latest gadget or style that newspapers, magazines, the internet, and television tell us to want; we learn to think that we need to earn more money because then we’ll have the good life. We all know that money can’t buy happiness … and yet we still pursue it believing it is the key.
No matter how much we earn, no matter how much we have in the bank, no matter how nice our clothing or cars or toys, none of it will make us happier. The sad reality is that it takes most of us decades of pursuing money as the answer before we realize the futility of this chase.
So, are there actually other keys to happiness, and if so, what are they? The answer is yes there are and research along with surveys of hundreds of thousands of people about what they have, what their lives are like, and how happy they are reveal the following Keys To True Happiness.
Here are four:
1. Good relationships. We have a human need to be close, to be intimate, with other human beings. Having good, supportive friendships, a strong marriage or close and loving relationships with our family members will make us much more likely to be happy.
MoHow: Take time, today, to spend time with your loved ones, to tell them what they mean to you, to listen to them, and develop your relationship with them.
2. Flow. This is a popular concept on the Internet these days — the state we enter when we are completely focused on the work or task before us. We are so immersed in our task that we lose track of time. Having work and leisure that gets you in this state of flow will almost undoubtedly lead to happiness. People find greatest enjoyment not when they’re passively mindless, but when they’re absorbed in a mindful challenge.
MoHow: Find work that you’re passionate about. Seriously — this is an extremely important step. Find hobbies that you’re passionate about. Turn off the TV — this is the opposite of flow — and get outside and do something that truly engages you.
3. Positive thinking. Positive Thinking, which I call Momentum Thinking, is not only the best way to achieve your goals; it turns out that it can lead to happiness too. Gratitude, optimism and perseverance are some of the best indicators of people who lead happy lives. Happy people feel empowered, in control of their lives, and have a positive outlook on life.
MoHow: Make positive thinking a habit. In fact, this should be one of the first habits you develop. Get into the habit of squashing all negative thoughts and replacing them with positive ones. Instead of “I can’t” think “I can”.
4. Positive Self-Talk. We talk to ourselves all day long and what we say and believe is our reality. Greater happiness is the result of talking to ourselves in a more realistic and constructive way.
MoHow: Learn how to listen to your thinking anytime you feel unhappy and then learn to question the accuracy and usefulness of any negative self-talk. Then replace the negative self-talk with Positive MoTalk.
The Momentum Mind course that we offer at www.maintainmomentum.com was created to help you think well, feel happier, and achieve more in your life. Join and complete the first five lessons of the Free Intro course and you will be on the voyage to greater happiness.
I will outline more keys in tomorrow’s post.
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