MoHow Posted By: Dr. MO Resilience is the ability to recover from stressful or challenging experiences, to bounce back. It involves being able to adapt well to changes and to approach negative events as constructively as possible.
Everyone’s life involves ups and downs. Developing resilience as a skill won’t stop bad or stressful things from happening, but it can reduce the impact that stress has on our lives and the time taken to recover from it.
Whether the experiences are everyday events like being late for a bus or computer crash, or longer term situations such as a chronic illness, divorce, or losing a job; building our resilience can help us cope and keep going
Resilient individuals do things that increase their experience of positive emotions in the face of adversity, finding opportunities in some of life’s greatest challenges. We can all build and improve our ability to be resilient when faced with stressful and difficult situations.
If you want to be more resilient here are 10 ways to do it…..
Think more optimistically One way to build resilience is to keep things in perspective. Avoid being overly negative about things that may be happening in your life. Even during the toughest times, keep an eye to the future and the likelihood that circumstances will change for the better.
Focus on what you can control There are many things in your life that you have no direct control over. Resilience involves being able to adapt to change with a minimum amount of stress. Instead of resisting or trying to manipulate things beyond your control, look at them as opportunities to learn and grow. Focus your attention on areas where where you can make a difference.
Strive for improvement Continually striving for perfection in everything you do leads to stress. Aim for ‘well done’ or ‘better than last time’, instead of ‘perfect’.
Take care of yourself Are you all things to all people? If you have been, begin to allow yourself time to do things that you particularly enjoy. When you create boundaries, and stick to them, others will respect them.
Connect more Getting involved in community activities can help develop your connections with others, create skills and boost your physical and mental well-being. All things that improve your resilience.
Do something you have been avoiding Procrastination can be a major barrier to well-being, leading to stress and preventing us from doing the things that are important to us and good for us. Ask your friends for their best strategies for getting motivated. Be active every day in as many ways as you can.
Spend time with positive people Nurturing a positive view of oneself is important for resilience. Spend time with people who help build your confidence and belief in yourself.
Laugh more Laughing out loud can be a helpful way to reduce stress levels, so look for opportunities to introduce some humor into your day. Life can be truly absurd sometimes, so don’t forget to laugh at it and look for the lighter side of frustrating situations.
Invite a friend over Research shows that relationships are one of the cornerstones of well-being. Close relationships and broad social networks are both important. There are simple ways to strengthen these ties, such as inviting a neighbor or friend over for lunch or a beer.
Be more active Being physically healthy is an important foundation for your resilience. 30 minutes of moderate intensity physical activity a day is a great target. Physical fitness foster mental fitness.
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